The Blame Game

All our lives we've been told that we can have it all. Social media plays a huge part in this. We deserve to be happy at all times, have all our hearts' desires come true, and have all that we've ever dreamt of, and anything or anyone that serves as a hindrance to our joy and achievements is the enemy. Is this true though?

I sometimes think that we are our own enemies. We have a sense of entitlement to things and believe they're our birthright and once we’ve been good, studied hard, and checked all the ''good person" boxes, we are entitled to happiness, no matter what. And if we’re not, it’s anything and anyone but ourselves. Blaming others for our problems only keeps us mired in immaturity. We also forfeit opportunities to learn from our mistakes, develop perseverance, and work in harmony with God to produce the character of Jesus in our lives. (Read Galatians 5:22-23)

It’s our ego, thinking we’re good people and deserve happiness. We're oblivious to the systems of the world and how it works. Oblivious to the basic fact that being healthy and able to breathe alone is enough and a blessing( Godliness with contentment is a great gain - 1 Timothy 6:6-8). Had we known that if we’re not in prison for a crime we didn’t commit shows we’re blessed? And the fact that we are not sad, sick, depressed, or suicidal and troubling news is absent, should be the greatest form of happiness( underrated blessings).

We would stop holding ourselves to such high standards and live each day with joy and gladness. Not waiting for the day we have everything to be happy, but deciding to be happy in the now because that’s all we have really. As 1 Timothy 6:8 says, if we have bread on the table and shoes on our feet, that's enough. (Life does not consist in the abundance of one's possessions)

Today’s child has been told that anything that makes her slightly uncomfortable is an enemy and must be eradicated rather than seeing it as tests, producing virtues in us as the Bible puts it in James 1:2-3. This leads to shifting blame unto others. No one is encouraged to feel the underlying anxiety, the underlying edginess, the underlying soft spot, and therefore we think that blaming others is the only way. We must learn to embrace all of these as part of our existence, they grow and groom us and their presence doesn’t mean we are unhappy or living a substandard life. We must begin to think like that. Otherwise this happiness we think we’ll have in the future when all our prayers are answered will be an illusion. True joy is only found in our Lord.

I am in no way saying we have to have to silently endure toxic relationships and situations, not at all. Speak up when your mental health and physical safety is in danger. However, in all these, do not forget to take responsibility for the part you played while on the lookout for lessons you can learn and grow with. Blaming others all the time deprives you of the growth journey you need to embark on and makes you feel embittered all the time. You give other people the power to choose how you should feel or act and it shouldn't be so.

You do have a choice, choose to learn and be joyful always.

Let's have a happy weekend people!