What if someone is gaslighting you?

The typical goal of a gaslighter is not just manipulation, but power and control- typically with the misguided cooperation of the manipulated victim. This type of learned behavior is often rooted in psychology or a personality disorder such as narcissistic, antisocial and borderline.

If you're being gaslit, ask yourself if any of these statements ring true:

1. You doubt your feelings and reality: You try to convince yourself that the treatment you receive is not bad and you're just too sensitive.

2. You feel vulnerable and insecure: You often feel like you're 'walking on eggshells' around the person. You also feel on edge and lack self-esteem

3. You spend a lot of time apologizing: You feel the need to apologize all the time for what you do or who you are

4. You feel inadequate: You feel you are not 'good enough'. You try to live up to the expectations and demands of others, even if they are unreasonable.

5. You struggle to make decisions because you distrust yourself: You would rather allow the other person to make decisions for you because you are constantly second guessing yourself.

If you identify with any of these signs of gaslighting, it's important that you seek professional help or talk to someone you trust. There are some steps you can begin with;

1. Gain some distance: Take a step back from intense emotions that gaslighting can evoke. Physically leaving the situation can help.

2. Set boundaries: Boundaries tell others what you are willing to accept in a relationship. Make it clear that you won't allow the other person to trivialize or deny what you have to say

3. Get an outside perspective: Talk to a friend or family member about what you are going through. Having another person's perspective can help make the situation clearer to you.

Let's take our mental health seriously and do what we can to be in healthy and safe relationships and spaces. It's worth all the effort we can make. And let's remember we can only give good vibes and energy to the world when we have them ourselves.

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